Quote: Tell me LL, have you tried this stance before...this NOT bringing up a big issue? If not, then it's a 180 worth trying, as I feel that your H may well start smelling the coffee when you're not there making it for him every morning(that's just figurative, of course).
it's a fairly new 180...the twist to it now being that I will not frump or pout I will simply do my own thing...he will have to seek me out with more than just calls warning me of bad weather and driving conditions but I will be pleasant and upbeat when he does attempt to interact with me...he needs to address the issue...I'm not going to make it easy for him anymore...nor am I going to invite another "it's just never good enough" "listen to yourself" session.
I think I'll just leave him on the couch tonight. regarding the coffee...he's finally figured out how to set it up before he goes to bed so that he can just turn it on in the am (since he leaves at 6am and I don't drink coffee and prefer to not be up at that time). He may notice a difference..but then again he may notice a difference but simply decide..she's doing her own thing..I'll just leave her alone...at this point I don't really care much...this up and down back and forth..here's a crumb...things are great...ok now I can get complacant and arrogant again...oh wait no I can't let me appologize...I was wrong..oh no wait a minute you made me do it...bla bla bla bla bla bla bla...whatever. I'm looking forward to class being over (not that I don't enjoy class) so that I can get back to some of my own reading...book club has taken a lapse without my being ever present and I know some of the members are missing it so getting back to that will be fun...I also wish it would stop raining!
