my crazy mess part 5 the saga continues!

[christarn]

Thanks FG, for your kindness and support.

I talked to my L, told her to lay low, let them do the "work"...I guess H's L made it sound to my L (over the phone) as if H and I had a discussion and we were both in agreement that D was an amicable solution...I told my L, I didn't want D, and didn't know he was going to choose this route. I told her how 3 weeks ago, he had asked me to come down and hang out, and things were "hunky-doory!" Then next thing I knew he said something about going and talking to his L, but I thought he was bluffing...and how he had bluffed to me before. She said she felt bad, she thought I knew he was serious, or she would have "picked a softer approach than a letter"...I told her not to worry about it; however I was in grad. school so anything and everything would have to revolve around my schedule now. I told her not to do anything, anything at all....let them, call her, and do the leg work. I said for the past 20 months, he has lead me in the direction this could work, and I still have hope it can, let's do what we can to make this "take time"...she said that was fine with her. She said the next step she anticipated from their side was a motion hearing. I asked if there was anyway we could get a judge to grant "mandatory counseling" she said she would file for it, but it could be denied, so, at the motion hearing, we are going to file for what is called "conciliation counseling." It is where one of the members of the marriage believes there is a chance it could work out; if the judge deams it fit, he orders mandatory MC. I pray, and hope, and hope and pray, if we get to that point, that is the direction it goes. Not that forcing the H to counseling is going to make him happy; I just think him being in an environment where he can vent and all I do is sit, empathize, and agree, could start something. If not anything else...it's a stall technique.

So this is where we sit.

Not exactly the turn of events I was hoping for, but indeed, a turn of events.

The past few days have been crazy with emotions. I've just been busy with work, and school, trying to keep all of this on the back burner, at least for now.

Thanks for the input FG~ as always, thanks for being a good friend when I need one the most
christa