No you can't rebuild with her in the picture. As far as looks go, well that only lasts for so long. Its inner beauty that means something, and If he can't see that, then too bad.
He's in a fog.. others will tell you the same. I know this is consuming you, I know, this is one of the worse things you will feel. Please do something relaxing, even if its taking a bath. Wait until the kids are in bed and just take care of yourself.
It does make me sick that she was your friend. How awful.
Why do they feel this way, I don't know. If anyone can give you words of wisdom its puppy.
I may not have alot of words to offer, but I will listen and help any way I can.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.