Rob, It's easy to be your friend. You are always sooooo nice. Even to your wife!!!
Bizzare has a point here. Good one too. I am dealing with 2 kids ages 6-7 and everyday is an adventure. I cant imagine how your wife will cope with your D the way she reacts now... Love K
Hey Rob... I agree with KLM and anyway, even if it was from you, its not your 'fault' and you are not to blame.. my ex has cold sores, becuase his Mum kissed him as a child, but you dont always know when one is coming on right, so sometimes it can already be too late. Its just unfortunate, its no big deal!! She is hellbent at getting even with you in her mind, but I do think alot of it is transference from her father.
Also, I dont have kids, but she seems to fall apart at the slightest knock to Grace.. perhaps that is some of her own guilt.. but it easier to get upset and angry at some other minor 'hurt' to her D than look at the real hurt she is inflicting of separating her from her father.
You are a nice guy and as others have said, you are a well put together man in your photos! We are all learning tough lessons, but one day, someone will benefit enormously from that. I'm betting her R with random office complex guy isnt going to turn out so successfully. Not that I wish ill on your W, but she just isnt doing the work on herself, clearly, else she wouldnt still be raging at you.
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
bizarre - I'm praying for 1/2 custody of D as well. W is so focused on blaming me for everything that she can't see what she's doing to our D.
In fact, when she's snotty w/ me on the phone, D is right there listening. W may think she's not paying attention, but she hears W's tone w/ me. That is why I never take a negative tone w/ W when D is around. I hope D will sincerely notice the difference.
This thing can't come soon enough as far as custody is determined. Likewise w/ the sale of the house. I would LOVE an offer that is reasonably fair to come my way so I could say yes and get out.
Thanks for checking in, my "bizarre" friend from the NE. I hope things are going well for you this fall.
My problem w/ being nice to W in the past is I haven't set up proper boundaries for myself and it has cost me dearly. No longer will I do foolish things like that. I hate to say I have to be guarded around anyone, but my W makes it impossible for me to rationally act any other way.
Kids have problems and raising them is a constant adjustment. I'm sure I'll get blamed when she wants to wear make-up and kiss a boy too.
RTL PS - Please note that I'm hoping to keep my daughter dateless until her wedding and that I'll be able to extract a mighty large dowry for her hand in the process.
Thank you for your kind words about me. I only hope I'll find someone else some day, that is of course dependent of whether or not I want another person in my life like that again. If I do want it and I do find it, I know I'll be a much better, stronger, more complete person this time around. This experience has been ultra painful, but not altoghter wasted as I'm growing better b/c of it.
It is sad that I'm the blame for all of the things that W perceives as being wrong in her life. She has a bad day. Blame RTL. She is tired, then it must be my fault. D is disobedient. Point the finger at me for not disciplining her correctly. D is sick, then I must have made her sleep outside all night in a tub of ice...and on, and on, and on.
Never any thought is given to the slightest possibility that I didn't have anything to do w/ whatever she's miffed about either. Nope. That thought just refuses to cross her mind.
So, I guess the simple solution is to look at RTL as the source of all your problems. It seems to work for my STBX, so why don't you all give it a try too?
Global warming? Al Gore forgot to mention me in his film as the main culprit. Dow Jones tanking? Yep, RTL again! Car wouldn't start? I pulled the wires. Seriously. Give it a try. Maybe my looney W is on to something here. Thereputic blame therapy.
My skin is tougher than a football right now, so I can take it if you all need a place to dump, I'm here for ya!
She is just nuts and I don't know what she'll do when I'm not around to kick anymore. Good thing she doesn't have a cat.
Yes, Nut, I did wreak havoc in Galveston last week and I'm not really blogging from the state of Arizona, but from a remote, undisclosed location in the Tora Boras.
