Bethie, I think you're right. W's parents divorce about the time she was 14. That seems to be the mental age she's reverted to.
Donna, most of the guys from the DC group have fallen by the wayside. One got engaged and married within mere weeks of his D. One got his nose out of joint trying to pursue one of the other group members and she finally had to rebuff him. Another is seeing some lady from out of state. All in all, most of the guys in my group are just not "getting it", DC that is. And my poor buddy "S" has been through the wringer with his STBXW -- unfortunately his obsession and bitterness is and has gotten the better of him. He's a very nice guy and all, but he is not really hearing what all of us are trying to say to him. He really needs to let his STBXW go. (She is bad news ...and I have first hand experience with just how bad she really is. But that's another long story.)
Tal, I am doing okay. Much, much better than last week. Physically speaking. No more bad incidences and my health seems stable again. I've got a very busy week and a big deadline looming for Monday, so I've had my mind occupied. I had a good evening at cub scouts with S7 last night. And I have been laying the keel, so-to-speak, for a new story I'm writing -- which always lifts my spirits by getting the creative juices flowing.
I got to see W's new apartment last night, dropping S7 off after the scout meeting. I just keep wondering how she expects to be able to afford both an apartment lease and half the house note when I am struggling to do so -- and I supposedly make much more than she does. It just don't add up. But I must let it go. And let her go.
