New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[twinhope]

Hello everyone! Things have been real crazy for me. On top of my 6yr anniversary on Sunday and I did not receive a call from H which I wasn't expecting. He did call to say goodnight to the girls and I did not want to answer so I let it go to VM. He said that he hoped that we had a good weekend, give the girls a kiss and hug for me, and hoped we had a good day! Yuck, how dare him. What does he think I spent our anniversary frolicing in the meadows. I was upset and missing my H. Then I found out that my uncle had a stroke and he was not going to make it. I am suppose to start a new job on Sept.22, fly home on wed. for the funeral, mourn my M, my D-2's are in a wedding on Sat. I definately have alot on my plate. As we say when it rains it pours.

My H has been supportive about my uncle said that he was here for me if I need him. Crazy comment for someone who wants a D. Then he asked me this "So you are going to send flowers from US, right" I am sorry I did not know there was an US. It does not seem like that! This is why I am not sure if this is what he really wants. He is so angry at me, hurt, feels betrayed, and thinks that I am playing games right now to see if he will bite. That is why I don't think he is giving in to any feeling for me. He does not trust me. Do I keep up the DB and stick to the plan? Or is he looking for me to give up my pride and show him that I want him. All along he has felt that I never wanted him, needed him, or loved him and now with the DB it is just confirming his thoughts. He may just be acting out, I am so confused. I think that the OW plays a big part b/c while he has wanted all that from me, she is giving it to him now. I don't like her at all or him right now!

I saw that some of you have done the letter/email thing. I have thought of this but for my H talk has been always cheap! When I read success stories that all suggest for us to stick to our DB but we have to be ever so PATIENT! Not my virtue for sure! Glad to hear from everyone! I am leaving on wed eve and I will try to still check in on everyone! Take care and keep up the good work. We have to know that even though we don't think so now, good things will come in the future with or without our H's. We all would like with so we can keep praying for a change of heart from them! It is amazing how we all have slightly different sitch's but it seems our H's do and say the same things.