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Hope,

How long do you think your H has been cheating for? Do you know the OW's circumstances? is she M'd? If she is do you think you could approach her H?


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me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
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hi Saffie,

I think that they started up when I was returning from a business trip. She likes to throw big parties (Halloween, birthday, etc). My H went to his first party at her house the night I got stuck in Houston the end of June. It was a big party I think for her mother. He never usually goes to anything like that. My D15 told me he got home at 1:30 am! I was really surprised. Found out that is the night he started drinking after giving it up for almost 20 years.

My D and myself flew out again the following weekend. I had training in Ct and took vacation time so we were gone for 2.5 weeks. During the first week away, my H found out that he was not going to get the Sr. Mgr Postion that was promised to him. He was devasted. I think she was there to comfort him and I was not. She is divorced, has 3 grown daughters, 2 grandchildren, She is turning 51, has had plastic surgery, great body. My personal nickname for her is the Plastic Pinata. I know for a long time she was dating (possibly living) with another guy who guess what works here also (another company located on property). From my understanding, they were total opposite, he was quiet, did not drink -- she is very social, loves to party, loves to drink and loud when she does. I don't know if she is still dating him. I only met him once at a X-mas party. I don't know where he works here or otherwise I would try and approach him, but not sure what their circumstances are.
So from my estimates this A has been going on roughly for about 2.5 months. I know he is trying to keep it very quiet for obvious reasons.
I want to try and work at this and stand for my marriage. I know it will take time -- much time. thanks


Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09
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