Playhouse

[saffie]

Yoyo,

I have been quiet recently because I have felt you needed time to build yourself up to do what I now think is probably inevitable - which is go through the divorce process.

Much of what Theo says I agree with. However, I think that your H is not so much a mama's boy as a guy who has found a way to live that suits him down to the ground. I have said time and time....why should your H want anything to change?

I think the only way you will ever see any sort of movement with your H is to hit him financially - he has grown too used to the current staus quo. And if he came back because he didn't want to suffer the finanacial damage of a divorce would you want him back for just that reason?

Yoyo, I honestly believe if he had a huge turn around tomorrow, you would ultimately feel you had outgrown him. He really is NOT good enough for you. You have so much to offer and are in your prime. You have a great moral compass and are intelligent , kind, compassionate, (to a fault),......yada, yada, yada....truly the list is endless. You are worth so much more than your H. You are coming up to a time when your girls will move on with their lives and you will be left in this limbo if you don't resolve this. You are not the sort of person who deserves to be left living waiting on others. You need to go and get your own life. You deserve a life partner who is worthy of you.

I know he is the father of your DD's but do you really want them to live their lives thinking it is OK to be treated this way by a man?

I feel I am beating up on you....but I say this because I care.


Theo,

Going on to what you said in an earlier post about your W's gripes - do you really believe if you do the things your W has pinpointed as being problem areas things will work out? If so why have you not done them? I am sorry....but whilst truth is being bandied about in such a bald manner I am going to have to call you on this. I am sure there is more to this than it being that simple. Be honest with yourself Theo....even if you don't give away to much on here. Because if the things that you mentioned are all that stands between you and a 'Dbusted' M then you would have it sorted by now - either that or you are trying to punish your W by not trying to change into the Theo who cares what she wants?