Quoting lostlove: it certainly is frustrating, especially since the advice most people seem to want to offer is to get your own life, do your own thing, keep yourself busy with things that you want to do etc etc etc. so inother words forget about having a r? forget about sharing a life with someone and instead be happy that I share a house with them?????
what the people that give that advice don't realize is that it makes no difference what I'm doing. H seems happy and content if I'm otherwise entertained, months could go by (or more) without us going anywhere or doing anything other then typical daily living and he would not complain, he would not say "hey we haven't spent any time together lately, let's go out."
Since I post from work, it can take a while to between job tasks for me to compile a rely, so I see you slipped in a couple more posts since and before you think I may be replying with more of the same, let me point out the sutle different I trying to make.
You should not lose out on the things you would like to do simply because your H doesn't want to do them. True some may need to be put on a back burner until your H want to participate, but do more of the family oriented stuff to start with. For instance, you're going to be able to get a bridge (or poker) game going the young ones, but playing a few hands of "Go fish" or "War" some evenings. Try to have a blast and it might impel H to want to join in ... and then it might lead to some "adult" games later.
Taking the kids out and leaving H home alone some evenings of the week only to have the kids and you come home so joviant from your activities, just might make feel left out and wanting to join in. The more he participates, the more he may want to share in more with just you.
