Hubby is here right now and is in a really bad mood. He won't touch me. Won't talk to me. And is pretty much on the verge of leaving. I am pissed!!! He is watching some lame show on TV and won't suggest something to go do and won't take any of my suggestions. We have a few hours to go until our counseling and he will probably just leave soon.
He said it is not about me and that he was in the mood before he got here but he won't tell me what it is and is content to let it eat him up inside. This is insane. Why the F! is this happening!
Can you quit making suggestions and just walk away for a bit? Did something more happen?
Maybe he just wants to hang out and watch TV for a bit and if you were to walk away for awhile things might be better?
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
He is wrecking my whole day! I only get one day off this week and he is messing it up! He should just go away and yet if he did leave I know I would be crushed.
This sounds really frustrating, but please try to keep in mind that he DID come up today. Can you try to use some of your DB skills maybe and act "as-if"? Maybe he is just having a bad day, and somehow feeling pressured.
can you ignore his negative comments and use this as a 180 opportunity? I know, easier said than done, but my guess is that if you were calm throughout his "tantrum", things would improve...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
When he first got here it was fine for a little bit. My mom and I were finishing lunch and so when he got here she was talking to him and asking a few questions. He did not give me a hug or a kiss when he got here which is really starting to piss me off. Then I go sit next to him on the couch and he starts looking for a movie to watch and I'm like why don't we go get a movie from the store and he didn't want to so I asked what else he wanted to do and he would not pick so he asked me to make a suggestion so I said a few things and he did not want to do any of that so he got quiet and shut down and then we kinda bickered for a little and I said he needs to either include me and talk to me about whatever is bothering him or he needs to check it at the door when he comes to see me.
I might have been a little controlling/bitchy but I stayed calm with my tone of voice. But he knows I am mad.
