Quote: It doesn't sound fair that H won't make specific plans with you, and yet does with others. What's the difference? I would imagine the difference is that with others he does things that he enjoys...going to the football games. He takes time with you for granted? well after all why should he make plans with me, I'll still be here tommorow wont I? Wants to keep his options "open"? his reasoning while attempting to get him to "commit" to one night a week that we spend together be it out of the house or at home, was that he wasn't going to commit to it and then if he couldn't do it (because of work/being tired) have the fact that he made the "commitment" be held against him. so instead of setting the "schedule" and possibly occassionaly running into a problem with it, he chooses to plan nothing and wing it so that he cannot be held accountable for anything. (This is actually a personality trait ).
Quote: Does he just not GET how important your issues are? it would appear that he doesn't get it, wouldn't it? Does the fact that you are sometimes quite content throw him off? perhaps Give him a dumbass sense of security? probably, but then again he's probably always waiting for the other shoe to drop too
Quote: Could it be as KAW said earlier that he's just not ready to put your needs first? don't know, but I would imagine that h would not agree that he is not putting my needs first. That he feels like it's obligatory or something? he's not going to do what doesn't come naturally, perhaps that is why things are always so inconsitant. grrrrr! Is HE waiting for some flash of something from YOU before he asks about the rings?? I doubt it, I thinks it's more of a stubborn thing on both our parts.
Quote: Let it on out, you'll feel much better.
the fact is when I let it out to h, I don't feel better infact I end up feeling worse.
as I suspected, if I even mentioned anything about h not making the time for me, our little mini family vaca would be thrown at me as well as the fact that we are "planning" (uhm not really it's more of a hey LL your good with the puter see if you can find an exchange with the timeshare) but that might be another month away. I am expected to be satisfied with a few min here and there and an occasional vacation? there is no consistancy. when I mention consistancy to h, he responds with "I'm human" bla bla bla.
