LL, I can relate you what you're feeling. My H has always been the kind to put himself first, and then anyone else. There was a time when I even felt I had lost myself as an individual. I know my H just doesn't get it. When I told him I was used to being "second place", in his life, he truely didn't understand the feeling. H can drop everything for dinner with a client, but is always too tired to go to dinner with me (and never thinks to invite me along). When he's home, he's on his barstool unless I ask him to move. Like you, I read other posts on this board, and say H is home, what's my problem? This is extremely fustrating because a little attention and reinforcement of your place in his life is not alot to ask for, but asking just sets him off. I have no advice, because I don't know what to do either.
