so meds would do nothing for him if this were the case. i also think that she has issues with the way he acts over there, cuz last time this came up that was an issue. so if this were the case, and it sounds by the website that it could be, then concerta would make him focus on being more of a pita?
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
often times gifted kids will be misdiagnosed as ADHD etc because they exhibit some of the same tendancies which is why intelligence testing and emotional testing is vital
it's hard to do iq tests for kids under 10 but they still do apptitude and ability tests
the tests on the computer for example keep going until it becomes too hard
(my son went up to 10th grade reading and 11 grade science and social studies work before he asked them to stop the test)
the school should provide all these teste to you ask in writing they have 30 days to comply or a lawsuit can happen
if her meds are helping her then I wouldn't mess with it
Hardy#1 never really tested very high on the ADHD scale that they used. Tehre were some things he tested high on but mostly it was emotional type stuff
withdrawing day dreaming forgetting work
the school psychologist was actually the one that pushed for more emotional and intellectual testing
she felt there were other emotioanl triggers for him
(for example...he really likes certain fabrics and other ones drive him nuts...if his socks are bunched int he toe of his shoe it was like megadrama...when I told her those types of things it was like her whole face changed and she started digging up other tests)
also we had already tried him on celexa but it made him a zombie
he is very much like me (my mom called me overly emotionsl) and really needs to make an emotional connection to get his stuff done etc.
we both test really high on the IQ tests (no tto toot my own horn but i qualified for mensa membership :O)
and
most people with ADD or ADHD have a high IQ...their brains move so fast...its just their emotions have a hard time catching up
smile more and take deep breaths before you respond to anything she says
I think it comes down to making a real effort to not take anything she says as a persoanl slam...even when it is...
find something to compliment in her parenting technique (I love how when you were trying to medicate son, you didn't spit on him or anything!!!)
you know
the basics
treat ehr like you work for the same company and have the same job and even though your styles don't mesh you still have to work together because your boss is watching
i'm going to smile and give her the big poppa wink.... she always liked that.
I like the sling shot idea.
I feel like I have take everything too seriously.... hmmm, maybe there is something to that.
Anyway, s9 had his appointment yesterday. He is on concerta. Not sure when she is going to start it. It's a month trial. So there will be a verbal update in a month. Dr. called me and I guess I am more at ease. Time will tell.
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
I need ideas on how I can improve my relationship with my XW without being obvious. I am tired of fighting and all this other crap.
Thoughts, questions, comments?
Humility will be needed in abundance.
Choose your battles wisely.
Some things you think you have to take a stand for...there are other failsafes that will stand on your behalf and you never have to do or say anything at all...like doctors and school for instance.
It's all going to boil down to humility though. Seriously.
You place your children in God's hands each day. And you just be a father. Trusting YOUR Father.
He will keep them.
You keep you and when that becomes a struggle, before you open your mouth or fire off an email, you stop and talk to Him.
You die to self and swallow your pride.
He will tell you when it is time to stand up for something and if and when that time comes, He will give you the tools to do so.
