Whoaa! LL! I was just about to sign off...you still out there? H sawing logs yet? Or have you torn a strip off of him????
I FEEL your boredom, agitation, frustration, anger, simmering rage
I get those feelings too sometimes. ...
It doesn't sound fair that H won't make specific plans with you, and yet does with others. What's the difference? He takes time with you for granted? Wants to keep his options "open"? (This is actually a personality trait ).
Does he just not GET how important your issues are? Does the fact that you are sometimes quite content throw him off? Give him a dumbass sense of security?
Could it be as KAW said earlier that he's just not ready to put your needs first? That he feels like it's obligatory or something? Is HE waiting for some flash of something from YOU before he asks about the rings??
Honestly, if he asked you right now...would you put them back on? Do you think he might sense (is it possible?) your ambivalence and not want to risk it???
Just some thoughts. Hope you work through some of this, even if it means you and H are arguing right now. You "sound" like like my thoughts when I've been "stuffing" my negative emotions too much.
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