Still waiting on wife

[HHIF]

I haven't posted in quite a while.Have been back home since March and we are getting along well as friends and parents.
Wife still says she does not have the feelings needed to be more than friends.
I really do appreciate the friendship and we talk more now than we have in along time,but we do not talk about intimate things or about getting past the friendship stage.
I do not want to push her away or make her uncomfortable,just doing allot of praying and being patient,but it is hard.
I know she has some sexual disires and know she takes care of them herself,would love if she would let me help her with that,but she is not there yet.
It is wierd that we get along so well as friends,we sleep in the same bed together every night,but we are just living together as friends.
I am crazy about this lady and will wait for her as long as it takes,I just struggle with what to do and how to express my love and my desires without making her feel pressured.
I have found out that when I back off and give her space and just be her friend that she tends to open up a little more and talks to me more.
So any advice on how I should proceeed would bre great,I really miss my wife and lover,but it doesn't seem to matter until she misses me.

[HHIF]

Any feedback from someone that has been through this would be appreciated.

[HHIF]

Anybody out there?

[saffie]

Is your W comfortable talking about the lack of intimacy in your M or is it awkward?

Have you tried reading books like the SSM or


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Have you thought about going to something like Retro to get your communication skills with one another improved?

[HHIF]

Yes she will talk about it,but just says she doesn't have those kind of feelings for me right now,just wants to work on the friendship.

I have found out through all of this that she has felt controlled and smothered by me for quite awhile but kept things in until she couldn't take it anymore and we seperated.That's when I finally woke up and relized that I had let my fears hurt my wife and our marriage.

I am working hard on myself and I know she has noticed,I just have to continue to grow and be patient with her.

I do believe we will get it figured out,I know she needs time to heal and see that I am not the same man that made her ready to end our marriage.

She did put the D on hold and asked me to come back home and we have gotten closer since then,patience is hard but I know it's what's required.

I haven't read any of the books you mentioned,I do have DR and it helped allot while we were seperated.

[saffie]

The books I mentioned are not just about sex....but also about much more....including how the dynamics of a R affect the S in a M. Check out the reviews on Amazon or on



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