Your husband isn't discarding his daughters. He never held them that close to begin with. He's just expressing where his true loyalties really lie -- with his momma. He's treating his daughters the same way he's always treated them. His feelings haven't changed; only the situation has.
And your daughters see your H for the philandering man he is. They aren't going to be all sweet and nice to him, so he gets grumpy with them. And...teen age girls can be really snippy. ;-)
Don't be shocked. It's broken, fallen human nature. Read the short story "A Good Man is Hard to Find" by Flannery O'Connor. Very illuminating. You remind me a little of the woman in the story who can't seem to believe that murderous human cruelty could exist in such seemingly decent, outwardly nice people. Then sha-zaam, disaster strikes.
It strikes in all our lives. None of us are prepared for it. Not when from the people we thought we could trust. Car accidents, shop lifting, robbery, murder, rape, betrayal,illness, loss of fortune, adultery, divorce. Sooner or later, living in a broken world has it's tolls.
