I think you're right. It feels like a slap in the face sometimes though. I guess it is their way of pushing the limits/boundaries. I'm sure if I ask him whats wrong he'd say nothing and then pin it on me for being "too sensitive"...part of the script maybe?
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I like the thought about the stop sign in your head...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I think it is best to deal with it on your side and not ask them why they are acting out. They are never going to respond well to that question. I used to always say "you're being such a jack@$$!" and while it was incredibly true it never solved anything. . .wonder why!
It would be lovely though to have a civilized conversation with a man who could just say "I'm acting this way because. . ." without it turning into a three ring circus.
I think it's because they don't deal with expressing their emotions in words...they act more. They don't express reasons for their behaviour and if we ask they assume we should know what's wrong.
Men! Can't live with them, can't kill them
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Oh yes take it from me, you DON'T want to ask why your H is doing something. Sometimes you might just get something mean in response to that question, and the answer is unlikely to make you feel any better...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Hi ITH...yes mine dreads the "whys" also. I guess I'll let it slide and assume it wasn't meant to be snide. I guess I'm a bit PMSy and I get a little more sensitive at this time. aggghhh all I need!
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I spoke to him for about 10 minutes and when he answered the phone he said "hey whats up!". I just made light of it and asked if he was in a bad mood before. So obviously the text wasn't meant to be curt/snide See how I put myself on the rollercoaster? It's like a ride built for 1.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
LoL...Ohh that evil PMS!! How I hate her and the trouble she has gotten me into before. Well Jen you are getting better and better at stoping yourself from the OAI, over-reacting and over-emotional outbursts. Keep this up and the greener grass will be in your livingroom!!!
