I know I am going to get beat up, but you keep assuming H can figure this stuff out. We are clueless most of the time. You discussions sound like bitch sessions to him. So he is going to be defensive. I myself would be walking on eggshells with you, waiting for the next "discussion"
This saying applies "if what you are doing is not working try something else." So try something else.
On the ring thing, come right out and ask him to place the rings on your finger. This one is really dumb to be hung up on.
