Are you really done or have you finally dropped the rope?
It is very typical for the return spouse to waver back and forth an avg. of 3 times. Key word being average. Now that your emotions are further in check carry your changes forward and live them. You will continue to show your H your true character and he will notice.
You have noticed and felt your intensity deminish, but deep down what is your true desire? THAT is what you want to work toward. You have moving from the needy to the needed. It is the transition that confuses the heck out of your H, he doesn't have the justification in front of him any longer. You're chnaging and have changed, you're a work in progress, he sees it, he just doesn't know how to handle it. He will figure it out with time, we simply don't know the timeline.
