All is quiet on the Eastern Front. We haven't said anything else about it since then and with the kids back in school and my schedule, it's easy to just deal with the daily logistics and leave it at that.
I think you are reaping the benefits of how you prepared for and handled the B. Convo.
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(i) I let her rant and responded with mostly "I'm sorry you feel that way." I hope it helps to diffuse things a bit.
(ii) I also asked her to not decide what I am thinking in advance, but rather to negotiate for what she wants instead.
(iii) It seemed to work somewhat as she did ask for a few specific things after that which I agreed to include in the settlement I am filing.
I think all of the above really helped. The empathy, the willingness to listen and demonstrating that you were listening by including some of her requests in the settlement.
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I was able to maintain a calm, collected demeanor throughout, if with a few tears in my eyes. No anger or accusations from my side.
And probably the most important - it was genuine and you followed your Path With Heart. That is why you were also thinking about the best of times during your M. I am sure W recognized that on some level.
I wonder if W is having second thoughts... She really is a fool if she doesn't try to win you back...
