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Eat dinner in my undies? Maybe i can vaccuum in my undies also...
Back to reality, my meeting with W got cancelled today. We were supposed to have lunch and then meet the bank manager. Postponed till tommorow...apparently the bank manager does not know how to use an agenda properly. I asked W if lunch was still on and she politely declined. She said however, that she would call me back and also that we would reschedule for lunch...(I just wanted to know if lunch was on or if I could make alternate plans (she was the one who suggested the lunch in the first place).....this was not a date).
A couple of interesting things she said.....first off she bitched about her mother (you guys remember my favourite person)...i am getting very good at this because i simply refused to comment, although I had a boatload of things to add. The usual stuff, her mom only thinks about herself is selfish etc....so what else is new?
W used a couple of terms of endearment when speaking with me....I just ignored them...probably habit. When she said bye she through me a couple of kisses......weird.
She calls 30 minutes later to tell me she changed her mind and would like to have lunch together.....although I felt like saying I was already booked, I did not.
I don't know where all this is going but may as well stay friendly.

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first off she bitched about her mother (you guys remember my favourite person)..


my only comment..blechhhhhh

it makes me flashback to my sitch

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Lunch went well...talked about her work....D7 etc. W did not even bring her cell. phone with her. She actually said it was because we hardly saw each other so she wanted to give me all her attention.
When we parted, she gave me a double cheek kiss and i screwed up and plopped one on her lips (I could not resist)....she seemed flustered....I guess this means she is not out of my system like I thought she was.

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Weird things John. She is either well over your M or NOT at all... Time will tell.
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Hmm....said she wanted to give you her full attention, huh?

That sounds, well, different....

I am sure she is not out of your system yet. How could she be? She IS your wife, still, and the mother of your daughter. I don't think you can get them out of your system like a flu virus. It will take a long time....

Glad you went to lunch. Again, even if it is "nothing", it is something, b/c you will always have D7 and it is great if you can do things together with her for the future...


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Glad you had a good lunch with W today John. It'll make co-parenting much easier if you two can continue to get along so well..

But I will concur, I don't think either you or your W are "done" yet!

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It's almost like old times...K, BBJ, W2G....now if Woog would come in from NY and tell me to be positive, we would almost be back to January. Like BBJ, I miss that....not neccesarilly how I felt back thenbut the banter on here.

I thought i was done...but it is difficult to be done when two people are still friendly.
I can not speak about W's feelings. I am not sure. Maybe she was just flustered because I surprised her.

Anyway, honestly.....I would not even know what to do right now if she were going in a certain direction....actually she is ...terms of endearment (on the phone) followed by kisses. I am pretty sure I am still in her system as well. For whatever reason when I am not around she gets closer and when I am around she drifts away......
D7 is doing great and that is what is important. I go pick her up on Thursday night and have her for the weekend (no school on Friday). My day tommorow is pretty full...including a meeting with the bank manager and W at 13:00. I think I am seeing her more often now than i did when i lived at home.

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Just met with my MIL ex husband.....he told me that my W has a boyfriend in Mexico (as i had anticipated). Apparently she is off and on....but i guess she is on since whe wanted to go away a few weeks ago. Also, he visited Canada twice. There you have it....i did not go digging for dirt but it found me. Even though I had an inkling, this makes it official and frankly this friendship thing just took a blow below the belt.
Obviously. all the past lies all make sense now. What hurts the most I think is the recent one.....where she was lying to my face about going away for a weekend.
This should be an interesting meeting at the bank.

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Pretty hard to be friends with a someone that has lied to you multiple times.

Did you ever confirm that the Paris trip occured?

Did you ever get a chance to try a Korean restaurant? I just googled and see that this one gets good reviews:

http://travel.yahoo.com/p-travelguide-2803198-cus-korean-montreal_restaurants-i

D7 and yourself should go some time.

After looking at the map, I sure would not mind visiting Montreal some day. I've been to Vancouver, Toronto and some smaller towns on Vancouver Island. S7 will probably make me stop in Ottawa as he has a thing for capitols. Our next trip to Canada will probably pass through Woogville on the way to Glacier, Banff and Jasper national parks.

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John,

That just sucks. Even though you suspected it, to find out for sure, well, sucks.

Let us know how it goes at the bank meeting. Are you going to tell W you know about boyfriend?? Just curious...


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