Sounds like a plan Jen! I think that the happiness thing is hard to acheive. My husband knows I have been changing, as he refers to "before" like "before you wouldn't have done that", etc. And I think that your XH knows there is something up with you too. The hard part is convinving them that the changes are here to stay and that if they come home again the rug won't be pulled out from under them as if it were all a trick. My husband says that he is hesitant to make a decision because he is still feeling confused and that if we get back together or if we divorce the outcome is a permanent thing. So I think all we can do is keep giving it 110% and hope that eventually they will decide to come back.
