I figured since I didn't quote Shakesphere correctly I'd put the first lines of his "All The Worl'd a Stage" here
All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players: They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts,
It's tied into the opinion here on these BB that a WAS and even a LBS have roles that we play and scripts that we follow.
I don't think my WAS is in MLC at all I think he was an unhappy man and decided that the way to find happiness was to leave the home. I know he hasn't found the elusive happiness yet so I still have time to show him home can be happier than it was.
But, I'm doing ok (95% of the time) and I've gotten pretty good in the past week with stopping the OAI and I try to change the thoughts in my head. I guess it's like putting a stop sign in my head whenever I start getting upset, angry or resentful. I hope I can continue.
He feels guilty and I know that if I can just never bring up January again he'll feel less guilty too. He wants me to stop reminding him and get on with life. It's hard to forget when something always seems to remind me of it but even though it's difficult to forget it needs to be done.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*