It's been a busy time. My FIL is in the hospital. He had some issues with his hernia and that caused a blockage in his intestines (as I understand). Everything started backing into his system and basically poisoning him. His body started to shut down. He had surgery on Sat. night. When he stabilizes, they'll get the infection under control and then go after a problem he's having with his aorta, which is enlarged. The nurse told H last night that he's stable but he has a ways to go. My BIL told us not to come down yet. He said to wait and see how the next few days go. If not earlier, we'll likely head down on Thursday to see him. D4 sat down last night and wrote in a card for him.
D4 starts computer class at daycare tomorrow. She's been bugging me to sign her up so I did. She's so excited. She and I also attended church together yesterday. I wanted to check out a couple of churches in the area. We went to one yesterday that I really liked. She's not a shy girl and she popped right out of the pew yesterday when they asked for all the children to come up front for the children's sermon. No fear!! She's very excited to start Sunday School too. I'd like to check out one or two other churches, but I got a good feeling with this one. I guess someone above wanted me to go yesterday, as the sermon was about relationships, broken promises, forgiveness and regaining trust. D4 explained to me how the pastor told them that if they break someone's trust, they need to say they're sorry and if someone breaks theirs, they need to try to forgive.
H and I haven't really had a huge break through in any type of R conversation, but we've been talking more. Just about the small things that we hadn't talked about in a long time. H and I have allowed each other closer to one another, and not just in an intimate way. I'm not sure at this time what all of this means...what our time spent together means. Only time will tell. I know a conversation is due and it will come in time.
Have a great day.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I'm so sorry that it seems as if I've abandoned my thread. It's just been really busy and yep, I still haven't gotten internet hooked up at home.
I was out of town on Friday to go visit my FIL. He's doing a lot better and might get out of the hospital as early as today. He'll have to get a stint put in for his heart problems but we'll see when they decide to do that. He didn't know we were coming down so he was surprised to see us....very excited to see D4 and she was excited to see her Papa. She did a great job at the hospital. We explained what all the tubes and IV's were for and she did well. As long as you explain things to her, she's fine.
H and I have decided to give it another try. We're spending a lot more time together and getting along very well. I have talked about OW briefly and I know that she's contacted him, but I haven't seen any contact from him to her. My BIL told me that he and H had a talk about OW when we were there over Labor Day. BIL didn't say much about what they talked about other than he got the impression that H knew it would never have worked and that he still loved us and wanted his family. Things change though, so I'm taking it one day at a time. I'm hoping that we can evenutally get into Retro. I think it would do wonders for us. We are talking a lot more about everything, so that's been good for us. There's so much work that has to be done between the two of us, but we're going to see if it can be done.
H goes to court today to see if he can get his license back. He goes next week to his chemical dependency assessment. We've talked about that too. I saw the lists of questions that he has to answer for his assessment. I hope that he's honest with his answers and that he can get some help.
Work has been busy for me too. There are a lot of changes going on around here.....departments consolidating, changes with an aquisition our company made....etc. It makes things busy for me but thankfully I still have my job. Others will either have to go into other departments or find new jobs within the next 10 months. Thankfully our company is giving everyone as much time as possible to decide what they want to do.
D4 is wonderful. She has her 2nd computer class today. She loves it! I'm amazed at how her mind works, the questions she asks...etc.
Yoyo, lwb & starting....thanks for checking on me. I'll email soon. Again, sorry for the delay in getting on here. I need to start checking on more people, as everyone does with me.
Have a great day!
-Sue
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Glad to hear that he has awakened from his dream. I hope they will put him in a substance abuse programs. It was a real turning point for my son. Good luck to you both! I hope he will agree to go to Retro. It will help tremendously.
I second ditto. I hope his eyes are fully open and he can handle this. I am thinking of you and hope wonderful things are in store for you. You deserve it!
