I will start a new thread as well. Chose the name because it is again, a partial song title. And this is how we all would like our sitches to go ...... in a positive zooma zooma direction ...
So I have the sportcar t-top this week - yeah!!! So how does it make me feel .... Driving this car makes me feel, strong, confident, happy & a bit sexy.
Strange how one can feel this way & yet I have to keep my emotions from reeling their ugly head. I knew with switching cars w/my H - that he would use my car to take more of his things from the house. We had a nice time together on Saturday (1st time I saw him since 7/31). I guess one hopes with even a tiny step that the WAS will put the brakes on. So my feelings are torn with wanting him to be happy & have his things & hurt because reality is hitting me in the face again. Him taking his things = we will be even farther apart. Not true really, but that's how I feel. In this long saga - my H & I still have to get back to the friends stage. So we are pretty far apart already..... (Coach - is this kinda how you are feeling??)
Think it's time for daily detaching thread read, to put my emotions back in check.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
It's funny how just driving a sexy car can make you feel kinda sexy. I wouldn't feel too down about H taking some more of his stuff. It's better then him having to go and buy it all over again....and it's pretty easy to bring it back again if/when the situation changes.
I'm in the same boat. I get kinda down when W comes and gets the odd thing from the house. I think we are reading more into these actions then is healthy for us.
Try to keep smiling.
Clayton.
H - 39 W - 38 M - 10 years, Dated 1 LYBNILWY - 5/17/2008 Moved out - 5/18/08 no kids - 2 cats
In this long saga - my H & I still have to get back to the friends stage. So we are pretty far apart already..... (Coach - is this kinda how you are feeling??)
Yes, I want to keep the ball rolling (expectations) and I don't like the deadtime. Either tell me it's done or let's get working. So it's hard to be prepared for both scenarios, very emotionally draining. Next thread title idea - "Stuck in the Middle with You." Do you remember the chorus? Friends to me means you spend time together doing things and talking. I don't like not having input because it effects me. So yes detaching is how you cope. Remember this won't last forever. So where's that joke you owe me? Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Friends to me means you spend time together doing things and talking.
You know these are 2 needs from the His Needs/Her Needs book. Time together a mans need & talking a womans need.
Strange how a month ago - when I asked my H if we could start chatting on the phone - he said - he would like that - never happened. Didn't realize it was really a Need I Had. Or on Saturday - when my H asked if I would help him paint - time spent Doing things - is his need.
Twilight zone time ..... do do...
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Here's the tune: Well I don't know why I came here tonight, I got the feeling that something ain't right, I'm so scared in case I fall off my chair, And I'm wondering how I'll get down the stairs, Clowns to the left of me, Jokers to the right, here I am, Stuck in the middle with you.
Yes I'm stuck in the middle with you, And I'm wondering what it is I should do, It's so hard to keep this smile from my face, Losing control, yeah, I'm all over the place, Clowns to the left of me, Jokers to the right, Here I am, stuck in the middle with you.
Well you started out with nothing, And you're proud that you're a self made man, And your friends, they all come crawlin, Slap you on the back and say, Please.... Please.....
Trying to make some sense of it all, But I can see that it makes no sense at all, Is it cool to go to sleep on the floor, 'Cause I don't think that I can take anymore Clowns to the left of me, Jokers to the right, Here I am, stuck in the middle with you.
Well you started out with nothing, And you're proud that you're a self made man, And your friends, they all come crawlin, Slap you on the back and say, Please.... Please.....
Well I don't know why I came here tonight, I got the feeling that something ain't right, I'm so scared in case I fall off my chair, And I'm wondering how I'll get down the stairs, Clowns to the left of me, Jokers to the right, here I am, Stuck in the middle with you, Yes I'm stuck in the middle with you, Stuck in the middle with you.
Quote:
BTW - How do you quote like that? Which key?[/
See the quote button above to the left of the # sign? Click it twice until you get double quotes in brackets. Then in copy the text and paste it between the quotes.
You need to go paint with him. Make that happen.
BTW you call those jokes?
Zooma Zooma
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Ok, I recognize the lirics. Painting - we'll see what happens with the car trade back. This week is me & the hotrod. If he does have a GF - his car is no pick up line. Poor car - so dirty. Last year when we got it he used the buffer several times on it. I plan on going to the lakefront a few times & even flying a kite.
Listen - I looked for a long time for those jokes.....you asked for them ......
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Well, my week with the hotrod is over. I had a very nice week. I went & got a tattoo, drove to lakefront, tried to fly a kite (it's much harder than I remember), took 2 other short trips & went out to a club for a bit.
When my H came over to trade cars back we had a drink & chatted for about 20 min. We chit chatted a bit and then he brought up getting an annullment again. (He's been talking to his mum & his mum says it isn't fair. She said if something would happen to me, he would get my house & that isn't right & if something would happen to him, I would get his debt - which isn't right). I said if we don't use lawyers we can just get a divorce if that's what he wants. (He's worried about lawyer expense). I said if he didn't have the time or want to make the time to work on our M, then we can divorce. I'm leaving it totally up to him. He asked if he had to decide right now & I said no & that I didn't expect him to decide right now. I said in this past year with working on myself I've also been trying to handle things differently. I also said by going to counseling I learned, that we never asked each other how we were really feeling, how our hearts felt. I told him that for some reason, that I thought what I wanted, was what he wanted and that was wrong of me to assume. I said it was strange because when we were dating he was in total control of when we would see each other & for how long & we would decide together what to do. Somehow that changed. He said he never thought about that.
Personally, I think there are a lot of things about our M & friendship that he hasn't thought about. I believe that he has spent the past year trying not to think of it.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
So how does it make me feel .... Driving this car makes me feel, strong, confident, happy & a bit sexy.