Trying SO hard to develop that thick skin! It IS hard though when you are used to believing what your H says, to suddenly try not to (I'm sure you can relate :)) I think my biggest problem has been expecting progress really quickly, as-if I would just leave, he needed a few days away, and we would suddenly be back to normal but just living apart for awhile. I don't think I really had a clue about how upset my H is/was, not sure how's he feeling these days, but he's probably not sure either...
I think we are between stages 1-2 still. Like today would be a Stage 2 day where we joke around, but the past week would have been stage 1, with him venting his negativity about his tuition.
Yeah he has never played along how I wanted/expected him to, that's for sure. In terms of my plan to move back, it is still my house, so I am going to stick to that plan unless something changes dramatically between now and then. I think Jody was right when she said "he can't just vaporize me". If I just go back, at least it puts the burden on his own shoulders to deal with the situation. That is probably where it should be for the moment. Anyway, I guess a lot can happen in the next 4 weeks :). I am starting to think that maybe my DBing has paid off a bit in terms of him trusting me a little more. This is the behavior I wanted, and it's really only been the last 2.5 weeks or so where I REALLY got what it meant to DB. So, I'm still hopeful...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
