Tipper, glad you are doing well, glad you are enjoying your husband.
About the counseling - and you leaving other counselors - good for you! If they are guiding you to a place that feels wrong, walk away. Good! I interviewed a bunch of counselors before going, and that way was able to find one that I felt I could agree with and trust.
I would be careful about the having children decision. That's for another time. not now.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....