5 weeks remain til next chapter starts

[istherehope]

And yes I am obsessing about his contact, but it's been an interesting last couple of hours...he's been going on and on on IM, nothing R related, but lots of conversation, and he is initiating it all, he actually asked me how work was going, something he hasn't asked in AGES, not even usually when we were in the same house. I didn't tell him the truth of course that I am on the boards all day :). I've been pretty brief with my answers, and always brought it back to him, how is YOUR work going, etc. I've found a few occasions to compliment and validate. He said how hard it was taking care of the cats, and I agreed and said he rocked for doing it. He said school and work were really busy, and I said that I would have never been able to do both school and work at the same time, and how I could hardly manage just school when I was in my MBA program. I said that he was always so much better organized than me. He called me a name once, a joking name, and keep saying he wishes I could take the cats here in Poland, as if I would be here forever...

Anyway the conversation has been nice, and it feels pre-bomb minus the Poland bits. I am actually kind of worried though for tomorrow's joint session, that he may say something hurtful or that he's happy only because we're not in the same place and because he is alone. There have still been no real future references or anything, or maybe I am looking for things to move more quickly than they should, the only "we's" that he ever uses are in reference to finances...I think I am being impatient. I was just hoping for SOME reference to me coming back to Dublin. It feels as though he doesn't see this in the future. In fairness he probably doesn't see that far down the road yet. I guess all I can do is continue to bite my tongue, and hope no R talks come up.

Does anyone think I should offer to postpone the joint session again? To be honest I am not sure how useful it is to get him on these sessions. Him saying how busy he is with school gives me a perfect excuse. I could just say, "You've mentioned how busy you are with school. Do you want to postpone this week's session? I'll go with your decision on this".

ITH