Hi Cinders, I hope you are fine today. Yes, I have also lost H like so many others here, although he claims not to be with OW anymore.
Regarding moving in is sometimes the beginning of the end. I remember when I moved in with H and it was very difficult to start with. But we were both young and in love and happy. And my H wasn't moody and angry as he is now, nor did either of us have an "old" R or kids. So it was much easier to overcome the problems.
My H lived with OW for about 2 years, but during this time their R already started to deteriorate. When I told him recently that he will never have a R like we had with anybody else he said "probably not".
You are a strong lady and you have done alright so for. I am sure you will be fine in the future as well, although it will hurt a lot. I know the sitch must be harder if you have kids, but I admire you for being such a super mum. (((HUGS)))
