Rob, Don't beat yourself up. Remember life changes us all in different ways. Maybe she really wasn't like this when you dated. I just feel bad for your D, her Mother is the poster child for dysfunctional. It is absurd she has made the divorce so costly, again it really hurts your D in the end. Why she can't just negotiate terms instead of blaming. Unless she is going to press criminal charges, who cares? One has to wonder if her L told her if she accuses you that she will get more money or full custody or something. I just can't help thinking one of the L's should have said to the other, "look these people don't have a huge amount of money, we should encourage them to come to an agreement.
I'm not so sure how ethical W's L is... I know, I know all about the "ethical L" stuff, but seriously, it seems as if he's encouraging very dirty pool w/ us here. He is acting as the stereotypical scumbag L. However, I can't forget that HE DOES WORK FOR HER so this could all be her doing and not his.
I'm all for getting this settled and I think we can as soon as the parenting time issue is settled. I know this is costing me tons and tons of money, but I can re-make money. It is much harder to rebuild an assassinated character. Thus, I'm fighting her baseless accusations to the hilt.
If she doesn't agree to the polygraph test, I'm going to ask for a written and signed retraction of her allegations. Either be willing to back them up or take them off the table forever.
Hi Rob - Sorry to hear about the Husky's yesterday. Can you believe there are only 2 undefeated Pac 10 teams now? The Cougars are probably the worst team in the Pac 10 right now, but they may get a win next Sat against the lowly Portland State Vikings.
Hey Kerry. Yes the Dawgs did look pathetic this weekend. It will most likely be a long, long season.
Anyway, I had a great time w/ D as we went to the high school football game and played around on Friday, then came up and she played teacher in my classroom on Saturday as we were kicked out of the house for a bit for an open house. We then decided to stay in, order pizza, and play Wii on Saturday night. Sunday we watched movies in the morning, then ate lunch, came home and got into fights w/ the foam swords, soccer boppers and throwing stuffed animals around for a bit. After that we had a dance contest then we colored all afternoon before I had to take her back. We had a great time.
W was her normal "put-on nice" self at the drop-off on Sunday. If she hadn't seen our rebuttal to her L about the pathology test by Saturday she'll get it either today or tomorrow. I'm sure she'll be pissed, but oh, well. I called for D last night, didn't get an answer, left a message, and as is the norm, D didn't call back. I'm sure W didn't give her the message or didn't tell D she needed to call me. Either way, I missed telling my girl goodnight.
I did send her an e-mail today b/c I read an article about a pneumonia virus that was bad last year that can be avoided w/ the flu vaccine. I wanted to get W's opinion on whether or not to give D the vaccine, so I'll see if she responds to me on that one. I wouldn't be suprised if she berates me for asking and not knowing her answer automatically. Oh, well. My W is like Forrest Gump's box of chocolates, I guess.
Anyway, that's basically it from here. Nothing of news to report as of now, but you know I'll fill you in when/if things change.
I was able to talk w/ my D tonight. We talked about words that begin w/ the letter of focus this week - "D" - and she suggested "Daddy" right off the bat, which was cool. We then talked for a bit longer until she said she had to go b/c W was painting her toes and feet. I told her I loved her and goodnight and then W got on the phone.
She was upset b/c D has a cold sore on her mouth. I told her I didn't currently have one to which she replied "That's not how they work." Really? I'm the one who gets them frequently. Don't you think I know how they work?
Anyway, I said it looks like D got the same virus from me and she'll have cold sores too which is unfortunate. All W did was continue to be mad at me b/c D had a cold sore. She just lives to be angry at me.
I wonder what she'll do once our D is final and I'm "officially" gone and we don't have to speak much any more? Who will she be mad at then?
Maybe the "boyfriend of the month" or someone. Who knows? Who cares? I really don't at this point. I mean it would be nice to be able to have a civil relationship w/ her where we work together to raise our D the right way, but right now, that is nothing but a pipe dream.
Anyway, I said it looks like D got the same virus from me and she'll have cold sores too which is unfortunate. All W did was continue to be mad at me b/c D had a cold sore. She just lives to be angry at me.
Why on earth would you jump in to assume responsibility for her cold sore? MOST people have acquired the virus that causes cold sores in childhood. She is in school - she's just as likely to have picked it up from another kid.
Thanks for your support as usual. I'm glad you are my friend.
I too hope things will settle down once the divorce is final. I'm not too happy about the possibility of a continuance as it just keeps things dragging out. I realize this is short-term and things will be better in the long run. However, the short-term is really killing me.
Rob, W blaming you for all that goes wrong with D, is just one part of her problem. She also can't seem to deal with the normal stuff that comes up with kids. What is she going to do the first time D defies her? She will not be able to get through the teenage years if she doesn't get a grip! She so sounds like she can't stand to be bothered with her own kid. Kids get sick, kids get lice, kids have accidents etc. I so hope you get at least joint custody,because D needs balance in her life, not hysterics.
