Quote: What do you think he would think of the LOVE TANK concept
h understands the love tank concept very well. He may not be inclined to read the book or listen to the tapes but he does listen to me when I explain it to him, he listens so much that he is well aware of the fact that he is an "acts of service" man and also knows what I am too.
things seem to still be going very well, the shift has not shifted back and I'm thankful for that I wonder sometimes if the neg vibe was simply more of me letting my own thoughts and insecurities push him away? only then leaving me to wonder why he's withdrawn.
so yesterday was a great day, relaxing and fun. bil and his wife came to visit, had a water fight with them and son while h cooked steaks (I think he enjoyed watching us have fun though and I especially think he enjoyed the fact that bil soaked me and I had a light colored tank top on ).
I had asked h fri what the distance from one of our house spigets to the hanging plants was...that I had seen a coil hose with a stick sprayer but didn't buy it because I didn't know if it would be long enough...yesterday when h and son went to the hardware store to get trash bags and ice upon arival home son called me out to the deck with a special delivery! guess what it was...the hose and stick sprayer!
I've given up on waiting for my father to decide whether or not I can use his vacation place for the weekend we'd liek to go away (for petes sake it's not like I asked him not to be there I just don't want his skank there) and booked a little one room cabin in nh instead.
h is excited about it (I do wonder why he doesn't want to stay at his families townhouse up there but I suppose I know why, this way it's more of OUR vacation) I am pretty excited about it too.
I'm not happy that this all happend (the sit, ow and all) but I am happy with the end result and know that if I feel this good about it now (there are still some fears and insecurities) I can only imagine how good it will be in a few years. suppose it's just as I said to h during the bad times....you can look back 5 years from now and say what did I do...or you can look back and say I can't beilive what I almost did.
I'm glad he took the "risk" and came home! I think he's pretty glad too!
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