Wow Upside we will have to see what happens with your h. I don't really think the ultimatums work, but it depends on what you want. Your h is making progress, but baby steps.
It's interesting I said the same thing to my h awhile back and said what's it going to take and his response was I don't know. Hmmmmm confirms they all must think alike.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
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