Quote: so...can you say what you notice? I know you know from my threads that when I hit a rough patch, I start to feel anxious and it seems like h. retreats a bit...not sure which comes first, frankly, but I KNOW for sure that they feed off of each other
I'm not totaly sure if I actually even notice anything in h or if it is simply me. at this point I'm more inclined to think it's me then h notices something and gives me space wich I notice and interperet as him being withdrawn or distant and that serves only to fester my bad vibe.
time to put an end to it.
solution.
when I'm feeling down go for the damn hug when h get's home and feel better! what's so complicated about that? the fear that maybe this hug wont be recieved well...heck that hasn't happend yet so why let that fear keep me down! go for it baby go for it! break the cycle!
Quote: So why not do that (movies, dinner with friend, whatever). This is SB, right??? If doing that breaks you out of the semi-funk, well, that's aok, right?
sometimes it's good and sometimes it's not, depends on what is actually going on. h gives me the freedom to go to a movie and chill out if I need to without letting it effect him in any way (sometimes I wish it would but I know that's just me being insecure) understanding that I need the space, there are times when doing so helps me reflect and come back with a new understanding of MY role in whatever icky feelings I was having or it can serve to intensify the negative way I feel.
so there is some decision making needed when flying the coop (simply taking in a movie alone, or running errands) what am I running from? am I running? will getting out benifit me or hurt me?
I am going out tonight with some friends though, not running just chilling out a bit.
