Hi Saffie, your first 2 paragraphs are exactly my story. We drifted and were almost leading seperate lifes. In July while I was visiting family with my D15, my H found out he was not to receive a sr mgr position. He was devastated. I think it was at that point that one of the woman that worked for him that they started an A. He still to this day will not admit. But end of July he tells me IANH after one night getting home late and drinking (gave up drinking 20 years ago), from that point on he does not want to work on the marriage. We went to MC seperately and then met together last week and he says he wants to move out and take care of himself. H said there is no OW (knows he will get fired) and it is just me. Hasn't been happy in 20 years. full blown MLC. The worst part is that we moved away from my family (1st move was living in the my hometown) over 1900 miles and it is only myself and D15 with no one around. We both work together so it is very uncomfortable. He found an apt less than 1/2 mile from our house. He is moving the end of the month. I tried talking, pleading etc, to no avail, did mention suicide (just acting out), now I am trying DB but it is frustrating when it is only me working on this. I saw that you managed to pull everything together. Willing to wait if I see results eventually. I cannot move back to old state till my D15 finishes school (3 more years). It is so isolating for me and I am trying to keep my spirits up. thank God for these message boards. Thanks for your input on how you were able to put the A behind you. I do not know if I should expose the A to my Ds, especially since he will not admit to it. Did you tell your children and how did they take it. Appreciate your post. Hoping to hear from others also.. ____________ me 52 H 49 D15 D28 bomb 7/08 IANH found apt moving 10/1 M 21 years
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
