I know EXACTLY how you feel with that - how can you be friends with these people?
Funny, I could have forgiven him and welcomed him back home as a H, but I really don't want him as just a friend, and that is all he wants to be to me. I just don't think I could relate to him like that. Maybe that is a secret of DB that I didn't / couldn't get to - I was never able to detach like that, especially around him. It pisses him off, that all or nothing thing. But it is how I feel. I have enough friends. Maybe that dooms any reconciliation in the future...