I do just write down things, but advice is always welcome. The one thing that kills me is the our complete lack of intimancy. I have let it go somewhat, do bring it up sometimes and he keeps saying "soon". I have also noticed that the more I leave him alone the more he seems to want to talk (about anything) and the more he says he loves me.
Me 40 H 41 T17/M14 Sons 7 and 4 OW - yes for over a year "I don't know what I want" 5/29/08