Hey. Could really relate to your post yesterday...some stuff about the parents D but I most of all resonated with what you said about affairs...the whole "fell into it" stuff. I dunno...maybe it's not so much that our Ses didn't KNOW what they were doing but that they didn't care??? Ouch. Easier to think that they were in so much pain that by the time they figured out what they were doing was wrong the pain relief it was providing was so significant that they couldn't stop?
I'm not helping here, am I??? Just wanted you to know I could relate.
About a month ago, I started working with a new guy I hadn't worked with before. We had to email each other some stuff and he started sending some cutesy emails interspersed with work ones. I responded a few times (they were innocent enough) but I just had a weird feeling about the whole thing so I put a bit of distance back into the exchange. Didn't seem that difficult to figure out at the time. I'm just not the flirty type (heck, maybe that's my problem at home!! ) so it's never felt that tough to me to have strong boundaries with male friends. Not saying I've never been attracted to another guy (duh) -- just that seems straightforward enough to know when the waters are dangerous....
Wondering if you and h have talked specifically about the time after your dd's birth. Sounds to me like that's an area that really needs to heal for you.
Sage
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I'm just not the flirty type (heck, maybe that's my problem at home!! 
) so it's never felt that tough to me to have strong boundaries with male friends. Not saying I've never been attracted to another guy (duh) -- just that seems straightforward enough to know when the waters are dangerous....
