You've had a few days in hand already of NC.. he knows you have a curry arranged and that he could come with you. He also knows that he is not in on Wednesday, so...the balls in his court. So although you said..
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Maybe I should contact him a bit. When I was a bit more proactive he was more responsive
...I dont think you should. I think this theory that he doesnt feel deserving, so you have to reach out all the time.. is sort of over compensating perhaps now that a year has gone by.. and also, its not allowing him to take responsibility for his choice and his decision. Its sort of like you're reacting like you are still in a relationship with him, but you arent. How would you treat a friend? Would you make it easy, keep stepping in, making the first contact?
My sister said to me.. ok, you could email/call him, he probably would respond, and you get to make that connection with him again, for a few hours.. but you're never going to know, as you just keep hanging there. The only way to know, is to allow him the space to own his decision and be responsible for it.
Sorry for over explaining, but I think tommorow you have an ideal opportunity to wait and see what he does. If you contact him, yes he will reply, yes he'll come and ...another year could go by!
Hugs to you, Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
