I got the controlling speech when I caught him red handed both times. After the first A when I couldn't trust him and started looking at phone bills, emails, etc and he would have to check in with me where he went he said that he is a "big boy" and shouldn't have to ask permission or tell me where he was going.
For the second A, it was that I needed to get a life and move on. He said I would just push my next husband away because of all the snooping. Well if you wouldn't have cheated on me and lied to me then I wouldn't be doing this!!!!
I never in the time we were together ever controlled him. I trusted him more than anything. He broke that trust and from his actions up to this point he doesn't want to fix it.
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
