Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

My MIL has never been close to my girls. She has always been closer to H's sister's daughter. It probably has a lot to do with that SIL has been divorced a couple of times and after each divorce she always moved home with her parents. So it's easy to understand that MIL would have a stronger bond with her daughter and granddaugher. I bet I could count on one hand the times they have ever spent the night with my inlaws. As a result my girls aren't close to my MIL either.

Friday night at the ballgame H sat with me and was complaining that DD17 had not called his mother yet to let her know that she got on homecoming court. DD found out on Tuesday. I said, "She has been busy this week after school with the mini-clinic." ( they teach the elementary a dance that is performed at the HS game, it's a fund raiser for the steppers). He said "Well, she found time to call everyone else." I said, "Actually, I emailed some people, but you are right she should have called your mother. I'll remind her to do it." He said, "She shouldn't have to be told to do it." I agreed with him and changed the subject. I can't remember the last time MIL called to invite my daughters over or even to check up on them.

Yesterday evening when DD17 got home from the track I told her she needed to call her grandmother. She kind of hedged around. Oldest DD20 was over and she said, "Yes, you really need to I'm tired of hearing Dad complain." So DD17 went into the other room and was back in less than five minutes. This is the conversation that she had:

DD- I wanted to let you know I got on homecoming court.
MIL - Okay (in a very monontone voice)
DD- Here are the times of all the activities.
MIL - Okay
DD - I got my senior pictures in, I'll bring you one sometime this week.


DD said she never congratulated her or anything. It makes me so mad that H acts like my DDs should reach more out to her. All of their lives she has never had much to do with them. Recently, she invited OW and her daughter to go shopping with her and SIL and H's aunt. She did not invite my DDs! DD told her dad she thought that was wrong, he told her she needed to grow up. I realize that is his mother and he loves her, but why does he always see his DDs "faults" and not his mother's!