A, I would just ignore the tm. He's looking for sympathy. He's a big boy and needs to grow up. I guess he was expecting you to pick up the phone at that time of the morning...not!
I know it's extremely hard on you to have to deal w/this, but you'll need to find a way to change your mind set and understand that he really is a million miles aways on the Mother Ship that is circling earth at this moment. All you can do is keep moving forward and the focus on you and your children. Yes, periodically you will get little "post cards" from the pod person and you just have to read them and then put them in a little box and up on a shelf for later.
The most important thing you can do is take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
