Not sure if you are new to this website or not (it wasn't clear in your first post...) but this section of the board moves pretty slowly....go up and post the same thing in newcomers and you will more likely get more respones...
The only thing I would comment on in your story is this: "now 8 and 18. Daughter is 8, son is 18. I love them with all my heart, both want their mother to come home".
I know you love your W too, but this comment says specifically that you love the kids so much. There is a big difference between loving the kids so much you don't want them to suffer more pain...and loving your wife so much you are suffering without her.
I know it is implied in what you wrote that you want the W back, but really make sure it is HER you want back and not the kids' mom, etc.
Again, please post up in newcomers! You'll get more responses...
