I hear you. My h had a PA about 5yrs ago. The only evidence I had was a couple of text messages, and INTUITION. It took me about a year before I confronted him about it. Long after the A was over and done, but the lies were eating at me. So, I told him about the text messages, and he confessed. It stung all over again. I mean it REALLY hurt, but it also gave me a sense of release. Out in the open, we could talk about forgiveness, etc...
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."