Ian, hope you are well. Sorry to hear of the continued crazy stuff.
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I do however think that I am scared to death of it. I know that I do think about what happened and whether or not it will happen again with someone else.
perfectly natural and normal feelings. If your changes are true Ian then should you really fear this? You can only control you and your feelings. Fear was a biggy for me but I was too stupid to realize that we sometimes fall back on "old habits" even when we are with someone new. I fell back on those old habits. They were easy for me to remember and take hold of. If you have the knowledge and these old habits are gone then is there really anything to fear?
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I have to figure out how to trust again.... I have to figure out how to be able to not think the worst is going to happen. I know some of you have had experience with this, so how do you go about getting past the hurt and betrayal when it comes to new relationships?
have faith. Trust is not built over night. It's a on going, long process. I'm sure as time goes on then your trust issues will resolve themselves.
The worst may happen again Ian. We can't predict the future. if you've changed for the better then IMO, YOUR part of the past can't rear it's ugly head in a new relationship.
It's hard to put yourself back out there I know. I've been there, done that..and still got my assss busted..learn and grow, be a better person..that's what it's all about.
