Jeff, I'm so sorry! Your MIL sounds like such a wonderful woman and a good friend too!!! You and your kids have had a rough year!!!
It always seems like that happens for me. I have had 2 awful years (1985) where everything bad happened (my 1st boyfriend dumped me and then my dad died and it was that kind of year) and then end of last year, I got the bomb and my bro's brain tumor the same week. But I do think we can always handle what God sends our way and things get better. I don't understand why bad stuff seems to come in packages; I guess God is still testing us and helping us become better people? I'd like to think there is a good reason!
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W's dad always did his own thing and could rely on his W to take care of stuff around the house while he was gone, she did everything for him, he would pack up and ride his motorcycle with his buddies, gone for weeks at a time, free spirit (see where W gets it from) and MIL would always be their for him, taking care of the house, the bills, his dog, etc.
I cannot see FIL even cooking a meal for himself
But I bet he might surprise you. I've done a lot of stuff this past year I never thought I could. I never used to do any what I considered guy stuff: simple repairs, mowing the grass, taking care of the kids in emergencies. Sometimes maybe it's good for us to grow like that, and get stronger and more capable, plus I think it makes us appreciate our loved ones more.
I think a lot of us are the same; our kids have one barely there parent and one stable parent trying their hardest like in your case. And I believe having one good parent is all a kid needs (my big bro and I were raised by a single widower dad and we turned out ok anyway). Maybe you even try harder when you're kind of a single parent, like you coast a little when you have 2 good parents, but when you almost have one like in our cases you try twice as hard to be the best parent you can be? I know my dad did that, too. (((((((Jeff))))))) Karen
