New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[marisol35]

Hi Hope!

I know...my H is soooo bad with money. As soon as he gets it, he spends it with no sense of accountability for when the bills come. I sent him a text today with the cell phone bill. I know that hit him pretty good. I had a family plan for all of us (me, him, D16, S14, and my cousin who is staying with us). I called the company asking if they would split it because I know he would not give me money for it and they actually did! They opened a whole new account for me, my D16, and my cousin. They left him and his son on the original plan. I couldn't remove my name though because if I did I would have to pay for the cancellation fees ($200 per phone). He couldn't add his name because they denied him due to his credit. So I just removed my numbers off and if he doesn't pay it then they will shut off his phone and his sons. Oh well!!!!! If a new R is what he wants then this is what he gets. He wants a D then he will face the music right?

We will see how long 21 OW hangs out when he has no car or cell phone......HA HA HA!!!! I mean this whole thing bothers me because I am not this type of person who is out for revenge but when they have no regard for our feelings, emotions, their kids, or anything someone has to wake them up right? Someone has to show them that they are doing wrong. Someone has to show them the consequences of their actions right?

I mean no one in his family is telling him he is doing wrong right now. In his mind I think he thinks everyone will just accept it and be ok with it. I have talked to his friends and his cousin that he is close too and he just blows them off. In fact, one of his friend's wife told me that he told him I was jealous and suspected him of cheating but that it was not true!!! So he is making it seem like its my fault!!! I was so upset when I heard that. Why in the world would I lie? It is just horrible.

This board is fantastic. It really helps to read other people's stories and experiences and especially get advice.

I want all of your M to work, I really do. I hope it works out for all of you. I just wish it could be the same for me. It is too far gone now. My family does not want him back in the picture at all. I just wish things could be different.