Sandrika, I have to say listen to Barb. Get a lawyer now, if not for you for your son. As much as I know you don't want a D. Unless you have private means and are prepared to loose out on your share of marital assets you really need to get immediate legal advice. If nothing has changed after all this time it's highly unlikely it will have by Thursday. IMO you are definately not in the driving seat. Nor is the OW, you are not married to her and she owes you no loyalty, put your feelings about her antics out of your head(so hard I know when they are not nice people) but it seems to count for nothing in a court of law. Please take care.
