Hey John, If you read Amy and PDT's last posts, they speak to why I've been wanting hard proof. I've suspected she was unfaithful since mid-July. I've known since the last week in August when I took the text messages and put them in threaded order and with clear eyes read what they say.
For the past 3 weeks, I've been saying that my wife is having multiple affairs. I don't say that she is maybe having affairs, I know that she is. I've been back and forth because I've not know how in the absence of hard proof to get her to stop lying about her behavior and because I've been trying to make peace with not being able to fix things.
