New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[marisol35]

Hi everyone!

Thanks Hope for sending me a message about the thread!

Wow...last week was a long week for me...

T2L - Sorry to hear about the H behavior at the game...the more I hear everyone talking about their H the more I have to believe that aliens do possess them!!! It is almost as if their minds are erased and someone reprograms them into a person no one knows. Not even their own families know them. It is just so sad.

Twin - I feel for you and your girls. Just keep showing them all of your love and forget what the OW is doing. My sitch is the same with a 21 OW. Its like he completely turned his back on me and his family for this OW and the more she is there the harder it is because he is busy with her. He doesn't spend time alone with my D or his S. She is always there so he can easily forget about us because his life revolves around her. The only difference with me is that my D is 16 and she knows exactly what is going on so she has chosen not to talk to her dad at all since this has happened. He hasn't made that much of an effort either so she has detached even more from him. This is what hurts me the most because she thought the world of her dad. There was no one better than him and she loved being with him. He just has not realized what he has done to her. I'm not sure if he ever will because of his selfishness right now.

JGrind - I am so proud of you standing up for yourself to your H. He needs to hear it. They need to understand that there are boundaries they cannot cross. We deserve to be treated with respect and decensy. Let him get angry at you. He's getting angry because he cannot get his way anymore. You are not weak. That is what they want, they want us to be weak and once you stand up and say NO then all of a sudden its a different story.

My H signed the D papers on Thursday 9/11 (of all days). He said they will mail them to me or if I wanted I could go pick them up. I told him I didn't want to pick that up and that I had a lawyer. I found out also that he bought plane tickets for him and OW to go to Colorado next month. This is where she is from to meet her parents. Now I have to wonder why he wants a D so fast. Is he marrying her or is she pregnant.... I just still cannot believe all of this is happening. I think I am in denial. It feels like he will walk through the door at any moment.

I took the truck we had bought years ago away from him on Friday. I had to file bankruptcy (before all this happened) because of the financial mess we got ourselves into (mainly influenced by him) and since I bought the truck in my name and was paying for it I was not going to take the risk. He is carless now scrambling around to get a vehicle. He has bad credit and it is very unlikely he will get a loan. I thought to myself this is not my concern and I have to protect myself. Let the OW drive him to work every day since they work for the same company right? I am sure that will get old very fast.

And to think through all this I miss him and still love him. Would I take him back? That is something I would really have to think about. As much as my heart says yes there are so many other things to consider and so many other people that have been impacted by this. I really cannot answer that question right now but I will soon enough.

Keep GALing everyone!!!!!!! This is what will get you through!