I have to confess, that in my hurried state I have not read every word since yesterday. That being said, here's my take on what I did see.
Don't hope he's reading the self-help books for the relationship. That way lies failure. That way, he, and you by default, are placing the relationship on his shoulders.
Instead, hope that he's reading them for HIMSELF. Just as you're improving yourself. Because, as the best of each other, you will bring out the best in each other, and have the best chance of a relationship that works.
